She Would Get an Earful

They say that “with age comes wisdom.”  I don’t know how wise I am for my age, but there are some things that the 40-year-old me could’ve told the 18-year-old me.  For instance:

There’s nothing wrong with taking chances.  Sometimes it will pay off; other times it won’t.  When things don’t turn out the way you want them to, it’s not the end of the world.  And more often than not, the same people who would’ve been there to congratulate you if things had worked out your way are the same people who will be there to cushion your fall when things don’t.

You will think you’re in love with someone who will break your heart when it becomes clear that he isn’t the one.  But then you’ll fall in love with someone who would (and will) walk through fire before letting your heart hurt for one second.

You will reach an age where losing weight will not be easy, so lay off the pizza.

You will make the best friends of your life while in college.  College only lasts 4 years, so enjoy those friends and the time you have with them.  Because the chances of all of you living in the same town, or even remotely close to  one another, is slim.

You think you know how much your parents love you, but you won’t truly know love’s depths until you have children of your own.  Your love and admiration for your parents will then grow tenfold.

You will struggle to have children for 9 long years, and there will come a time when you simply give up.  Then, miraculously, you’ll find that you were, indeed, meant to have children.  With one look at your newborn son, those 9 painful years will drift away.

You have an incredible, brave, funny, dear brother whom you will admire more and more with each passing year.

You will battle depression, and you’ll think it can never be overcome.  You’ll even resist help for fear that nothing can make it go away.  Don’t resist that help and waste all of that time.

You’ll always wish you were living in your hometown.

You really shouldn’t wear orange, so just stop trying.

You will lose a friendship, and for a while you’ll believe it was entirely the other person’s fault.  You will be wrong, and that realization will teach you more than you ever expected.

You will have four dogs who live in the house and shed 30 pounds of dog hair a week.  Learn to love the vacuum cleaner.

You will have to learn to use a computer, and you’ll always be intimidated when asking for help.  So when you have to take a computer class your senior year of college, do not make the instructor mad.

You will reach the point where you listen to CDs more than the radio, and you’ll find that you don’t really care who sings what on the radio.

Your heart will sink the first time music from your high school years gets introduced as “Classic Hits.”

You will have to say goodbye to the only man who loves you unconditionally, and letting go will be the hardest thing you ever have to do.

You will forbid your mother to leave this earth.  EVER.

You will laugh a lot.  You’ll cry a lot.  Then you’ll laugh some more.

You’re going to be alright.  The road ahead isn’t always easy, but it’s worth every step.


15 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. pendy
    Feb 07, 2010 @ 15:10:39

    Love this…and admire you for coming up with the words because that’s so hard for me.


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  3. janmary, n ireland
    Feb 07, 2010 @ 18:06:22

    This is wonderful – thanks for sharing. I could have done with you telling me most of this when I was 18 too!


  4. meghan @ spicy magnolia
    Feb 07, 2010 @ 18:09:05

    This is great. Made me smile, made me laugh, made me teary. And I hear you on the pounds of dog hair…and I only have one! 🙂


  5. k&c's mom
    Feb 07, 2010 @ 21:12:42

    Oh, so true! You are in tune with your 40 year old self!


  6. JD
    Feb 07, 2010 @ 21:24:29

    Loved this! And, just for the record, the pizza comment is SO TRUE!


  7. robinesque
    Feb 07, 2010 @ 21:42:23

    Beautifully, beautifully written. And how spot-on is this advice!! You should pass this one to your children on “freshmen move-in” day.


  8. missmatthes
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 03:19:54

    This is wonderful. Beautiful written. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.


  9. wanda
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 08:52:45

    You’re one wise lady! I wish I could be brave enough to write such a post to myself.
    It’s hard growing up! 🙂


  10. Tracey
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 10:54:05

    these words added richness to my soul


  11. Daph-
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 11:14:33



  12. alexandlyndsey
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 14:18:49

    That was just awesome. Definitely made my Monday sweeter:) — Lyndsey


  13. Tina
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 17:00:07

    This is great!!


  14. Kelley
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 20:42:59

    Amen, amen, AMEN!!!

    I love this. SO TRUE!


  15. D
    Feb 08, 2010 @ 21:01:06

    Man I forget how much I love your writing! Great post.


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